how to never get mad

To be “unfuckwithable” is to be totally unbothered.

This makes you a bigger man.

If you want to be unfuckwithable, you're in the right place.

Just follow my patented 2-step system:

Step 1: Always Do Your Best

Doing your best protects you from criticism. From yourself and others.

This is because your best is all you can do.

You feel good when you try hard. Even if you fail.

If someone criticizes you for that, they’re a jerk.

If you criticize yourself for that, stop.

What if you aren’t trying though?

What if you walk through life blowing it and knowing it?

Then you are worthy of criticism. From yourself and others.

In this fragile state, even small slights will set you off.

You know you can do better and don't like reminders.

Avoid this. Don’t be a small man. Make Winston proud. 

Step 2: Practice Circumstance Jujistu

“Circumstance Jujutsu” is an entirely made-up practice where you manipulate everything to be in your favor.

You may have heard of Brazilian Jiu-jitsu, or “BJJ.”

Perhaps you have an annoying friend who can’t stop talking about it.

Circumstance Jujutsu, or “CJJ”, is different because you don’t have to wrestle sweaty men.

It’s a martial art of the mind that will improve your life.

Let's begin:

The meaning of the word “Jujustu” is the best way to understand CJJ…

"Jū" is translated as "gentle, soft, supple, flexible, or yielding".

"Jutsu" is translated as "art or technique".

The core tenet of Jujustu is to yield and redirect your opponent's force against themselves.

This conserves your energy, allowing you to beat bigger, stronger opponents.

Circumstance Jujutsu works the same, except the “opponent” is: circumstance.

You redirect the force of “bad” happenings to make them good.

People aren’t good at this.

They either:

1: Oppose negativity. The “alpha-male” type.

To them, life is a confrontation. They achieve, but get exhausted.

Then, there are people who:

2: Absorb negativity. “Nice guys”.

Nice guys seem nice but then get weird mean.

Like passive-aggressive. Ew.

Practitioners of CJJ don’t fight OR absorb. They redirect.

This is the path to truly becoming “unfuckwithable.”

> Someone says you suck?

Maybe you do. Ask them why.

Are they right?

If so, time for you to get better at the thing you suck at.

Thank the person for their helpful feedback.

-> Broke a lim and stuck in a hospital bed?

Excellent.

You now have time to learn a new useless skill, like calligraphy.

-> Have a demanding client that you hate?

Great, optimize your service for that client.

This way, normal people will be blown away.

-> Look up at a plane and a seagull shit in your mouth?

No way. Laugh at the absurdity of such misfortune. If you’re with people, use the chance to display your unfuckwithability.

They will respect it.

Now, sometimes things suck a lot.

If you can't find the upside, be thankful for the pain itself.

Pain is a great motivator. It will help you prevent the situation from happening again.

Also, just like BJJ, CJJ requires practice.

Spinning positive stories ain’t always easy!

You must be creative and make obscure connections.

Are you being delusional by making everything positive?

Yes.

Is delusion wrong if it’s in your favor? No.

Lastly, consider this: no one knows how this game plays out.

“Negative” events are often the seeds that grow into goodness.

This is why so many people say that: [insert terrible thing] was the “best thing that ever happened to them.”

Cirmustance either makes or breaks you.

You decide with your perception. 👀

See you next week.

Graydon

Cool things I found during my weekly internet stroll.

Latest humanoid robot demo: Astribot S1. 10% head. 90% shoulders. 110% dextrous despite no fingers. Wow.

Great tool to visualize your life in days so you don’t waste it.

Turn on a virtual television from any decade. Use this at your next 70’s themed party. 🕺 

Served up by Spijker & me.

This week a mix of techno, afro, and dreamy house vibes.

New Generation - Space 92 Remix | Layton Giodani, Space 92

Lifetime - KASSIN Remix | Tobiahs, KASSIN

Azalea | Nora Van Elken

DO 4 LOVE - Black Coffee Remix | Snoh Aalegra, Black Coffee